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In the course of my 25 years as Movement Therapist and Holistic Life Coach, the mostpopular problem that clients brought up was lack of self-esteem. Many even expressed self-hatred. That was shocking! “Hatred” is a very strong word, and individuals who are consistently self-critical always sabotage their personal and professional success.
I knew that my client’s lives would change if I could help them turn the energy of thatnegativity into a positive force. I set out to understand the origin of their lack of self esteem to help them get rid of it. My work was cut out for me, but it was worth it.
Though it’s quite puzzling, what I discovered is that people are actually ashamed offeeling wonderful about themselves. They create unrealistic goals of perfection in order to earn self-love, and when they fall short, they lose confidence and berate themselves.
Does it make sense to expend energy finding fault with ourselves and feeling inadequate?Of course not! That’s a sure recipe for failure. To achieve success, it’s important for us to acknowledge and appreciate ourselves and not concentrate on feelings of inferiority.
The only way to overcome a pervasive lack of self-esteem is to learn to honor and enjoyour unique gifts and the precious life we’ve been granted. We have to give up unrealistic standards of perfection, and stop worrying that we’ll be judged as conceited and shallow. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Is it conceited to feel you are wonderful and special? NO! Everyone is wonderful andspecial in their own way. Sure, it’s easy to find fault with yourself, and to find something tocomplain about. But, If you keep viewing yourself as a failure, it’ll turn out to be self-fulfilling prophecy.
I’ve found that when clients, friends… even I, stop being self-critical, true beautyemerges. Being brave enough to appreciate and love yourself blesses your life and the lives of those around us. That’s true success!
One of my favorite Hattietudes is:
Love is contagious… Go out and start an epidemic!
I urge you to take on the challenge of developing Self-Love. As you genuinely
appreciate the unique individual that you are, greater success in your life is sure to follow.
Tags: confidence, self esteem, self-empowerment, Self-Empowerment 101, Self-Love, success